Right
around the time your kids gets their first pubic
hair, they begin to
think their mother doesn’t have a pea for a brain.
The “mother” job is done a long time before you’re ready
or willing to accept it. When
your kids criticize you, it means you’ve given them too much. Even
if THEY are asking for more their SPIRIT is saying
(stop it) you’re crippling not helping.
Relationships need balance.
Too many imbalances force an unpleasant
separation, an
explosion like splitting an atom. Doing
more than your share is like pissing against the wind.
It comes back and hits you in the face.
When you resent it, that is your spirit
saying, STOP IT. You're
part of the problem. It is time to do less (not) more.
At
a certain point, your children only want to hear two things from
you. II love you & I
think you are doing great. If
they’re not living with you or asking you for money, that’s all
you need to say. On
the other hand if they are living with you and asking for money you
need
to say two things. No
and move out. Or get
a job. Working is a peek at (reality) for anyone still at home. NO
graduate
should be living at home without paying some rent. It does them a
disservice to let them freeload.
Just save it for their first month’s rent when they move out. I remember telling my son NOT to quit college. (So He did) and wouldn’t speak to me for three years. I told my daughter NOT to see some guy, so she married him. Yes, I went to the wedding. Now that she is divorced, so I tell her I like all her new boyfriends. I
remember asking God why was this happening. The answer was ’because
you don’t know when to stop” You need a mom ego alignment and
nobody can smash an ego down like your kid not speaking to you. Jesus
gave me his son. So I
gave him mine. Now
we’re even. All three of my kids are independent, doing good
and are being good to me. You
and your kids have a library of each other inside of you.
You can’t be mad at each other, without feeling a war
going on inside. At some point you have to make peace even if it means
swallowing tongue and eating crow.
When your
children are good, they are yours (when they are bad) they are Gods.
Put them in a “God fix it” box and LET
GO.
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